Why Millennials Can’t Communicate

Why Millennials Can’t Communicate
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Here’s why Millennials can’t communicate: Cathryn Sloane, a recent University of Iowa grad, has found herself in the middle of a social media controversy. In essence, she argues that the only people that understand how to use social media and online communication tools are under the age of 25. I’m saddened by her article, and the responses she has received. Here’s why:

I’m passionate about helping people to tell their stories in ways that are authentic and compelling. My business is the business of persuasion. I’m not persuaded to give up on the Millennial generation, or any generation, when it comes time to make a real connection. We all have stories to tell, and we owe it to one another to learn how to effectively deliver a message.  However, as the self-appointed spokesperson for her generation of social media wizards Millennials, Cathryn hasn’t done herself any favors.

Every generation has communication challenges. So does every gender, every political party, every corporate executive – even national champions. No one is immune from the need to consider how others will react to the message.

For many Millennials, the ability to communicate effectively (without a keyboard) is an elusive skill. Cathryn’s rant does nothing to reverse this reputation, and the fact that she somehow managed to get her story onto a national platform has created an outpouring of “please shut up” where do you get off? who appointed you queen of the twitterverse? varied sentiments.

For a fresh perspective on Gen Y communication and leadership, I highly recommend a visit with the Millennial CEO.

Yet, I believe in the Millennial generation. In fact, when I won the national elevator pitch championship in the ’118′ competition, my message focused on helping these young leaders in a difficult economy.  (If you’d like to see that video, it’s located right here).  My feelings haven’t changed, and neither has my commitment to the leaders of tomorrow. And that’s not hyperbole – that’s a fact.

Poor communication is not generation-specific. Each of us, in spite of our age, skin color, sexual preference, shoe size, or stature has a communication issue.

The challenge?

Creating a story that gets others engaged, with a message that says, “Tell me more…”

Having access to social media doesn’t make you an expert on the subject. Nor does your age. Or gender.  Check out the comments, from the NextGen article – here are a couple of people I really respect, weighing in on the latest social media misstep:
Shelly DeMotte Kramer Comments on NextGen

Cathryn got engagement, but not the kind of positive dialogue that leads to anything. Except, maybe, dropping her twitter account?
Tim McDonald - Huffington Post, comments on NextGen

Before you turn on the fire hose of “what your generation deserves”, why not consider what you can do for others? A self-serving rant does nothing to create a connection, or challenge the status quo in a meaningful way.

We owe it to ourselves to understand how to cross cultural boundaries, and deliver a message that fits for our listener. Proclaiming one generation as superior is naive and shortsighted. No one has cornered the market on social media; after all, it’s simply a tool for communication.

One day, perhaps we will set aside our age differences and other prejudices and understand that effective communication requires one thing from all generations:

 

Considering your listener. Without that consideration, Millennials can’t communicate. Neither can anyone else.

When you make the second person first, your message becomes more meaningful.

Celebrating the self-serving misplaced over-rated differences of your generation, gender, organization or ethnic background is simply a form of prejudice.  Is that prejudice the reason why Millennials can’t communicate?

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  • How can you create a message that is persuasive for multiple generations?
  • What have you done to reach beyond the boundaries of your generation?

It would be a sad day indeed if we were only equipped to talk to people who are within a select age demographic – even if they are the true experts of social media! :-)

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12 comments
AmyMccTobin
AmyMccTobin

What is it with Millennials trying to OWN Social Media?  Do you think earlier generations claimed to be the only ones able to use the telephone? Picking up the receiver first didn't impact your ability to persuade or communicate.  Geesh.  The reason her post irritated me so much is because I've had this discussion, ad nauseum, with real life Millennials when I've spoken to their classes at Universities.  When I was at University I actually LISTENED to my lecturer before I decided I knew more than they did.

westfallonline
westfallonline

 @AmyMccTobin YES!  Good communication is always two-way (listening and talking).  Here's a thought:   I wonder if Google is the reason for rampant expertise?  I mean, if everyone has access to the same information, aren't we all just as smart as one another?  Of course the answer is "no"-- but sometimes perceptions run counter to that theory!     You can't Google someone's experience - no matter what age they are - and that's why I hope we can find more cross-generational understanding.     I really hope that this post doesn't come across as yet another scolding for Gen Y...   I'm trying to find a way to help all generations and use this story as a cautionary tale of what NOT to do....

Beth_Stewart
Beth_Stewart

As a millennial it's one thing to grow up during the dawn of social media but it's another thing to harness the advantages of the tool.  It's presumptuous to assume we've "mastered" social media as a population as I've witnessed some careless usages of it.  I've definitely been "schooled" by generations past and am a better communicator for it. .@Vorsight 

westfallonline
westfallonline

 @Beth_Stewart Like you, I try to learn from everyone.  I don't think anyone has all the answers, and I'm always skeptical of any self-proclaimed "expert".  I hope I never come across as someone who's "mastered" something - I'm just trying to share my journey with others and make a difference along the way. (Does that sound a little too "zen"?) 

dadblunders
dadblunders

Everyone has value and shouldn't be secluded by "old thinking." I would think that people would have learned from history that we have to help each other in all our endeavors. Communication is a skill that can be challenging and prolific for any generation. It is the moment we stopping talking though we have problems.   Communication styles are in a constant state of flux. Nothing will remain the same and we have to be willing to adapt to the challenges and the technology. I am starting to wonder if some of the problem might be that people have become so dependent on technology they have forgotten how to communicate face to face. Social media is an excellent and wonderful tool to have . We have to be willing though to get out of that comfort zone and use all forms of media including face time.  Just my opinion of course....   Aaron

westfallonline
westfallonline

 @dadblunders I agree with you - it's about setting aside our differences (and our pride!) and be willing to adapt to the changes of tech as well as the requirements of the audience.  "I've got all the answers" is more of a conversation-stopper, in my opinion!

Kneale Mann
Kneale Mann

 @westfallonline You and I agree that leadership guidance is necessary for managers, directors, vps and the c-suite but it must also be available for millennials who bring ideas that are paramount to the enterprise. Don't squash the spirit simply because you don't understand or don't want to understand. And that goes for the 55 year old president as well as the 23 year old up and comer. Both are right, both make mistakes, both can learn from each other. Someone gave that president a shot and it wasn't when she became a manager.    In some companies, there are four or five generations working together and the org chart shouldn't be the only barometer that breaks the tie. If that was the case, we would be the first era in human existence  where we failed to learn from the wisdom of our elders while encouraging the growth of young minds. That includes helping when they make mistakes, not pushing them through the system or up the ladder.   

westfallonline
westfallonline

 @Kneale Mann Well said as always, Kneale.  I like the way you say, "Don't squash the spirit" - I hope that this post doesn't discourage or scold.  I'm trying to point out exactly what you say - we have to help one another, and effective communication shouldn't be an age issue.  If the message matters, you owe it to yourself to consider your listener.  And you always do a great job of that.  Thanks for your feedback!

Kneale Mann
Kneale Mann

@westfallonline  You and I agree that leadership guidance is necessary for managers, directors, vps and the c-suite but it must also be available for millennials who bring ideas that are paramount to the enterprise. Don't squash the spirit simply because you don't understand or don't want to understand. And that goes for the 55 year old president as well as the 23 year old up and comer. Both are right, both make mistakes, both can learn from each other. Someone gave that president a shot and it wasn't when she became a manager.    In some companies, there are four or five generations working together and the org chart shouldn't be the only barometer that breaks the tie. If that was the case, we would be the first era in human existence  where we failed to learn from the wisdom of our elders while encouraging the growth of young minds.   If that is happening in your organization, be worried. Be very worried. 

Kneale Mann
Kneale Mann

 @westfallonline You and I agree that leadership guidance is necessary for managers, directors, vps and the c-suite but it must also be available for millennials who bring ideas that are paramount to the enterprise. Don't squash the spirit simply because you don't understand or don't want to understand. And that goes for the 55 year old president as well as the 23 year old up and comer. Both are right, both make makes, both can learn from each other. Someone gave that president a shot and it wasn't when she became a manager.    In some companies, there are four or five generations working together and the org chart shouldn't be the only barometer that breaks the tie. If that was the case, we would be the first era in human existence  where we failed to learn from the wisdom of our elders while encouraging the growth of young minds.   If that is happening in your organization, be worried. Be very worried. 

dogwalkblog
dogwalkblog

I don't care one wit about her assertions about age or gender. I'm most offended that the University of Iowa gave her a degree in English despite her obvious sloppy writing style, overuse of clichés and fallacious arguments. She should have spent more time with writing tutors, perhaps a copyeditor or two. I hope she soon opens her mind wide enough to realize what she doesn't know she doesn't know.

westfallonline
westfallonline

 @dogwalkblog Well said!  I hear ya - but I also hear her confusion, and I wish her well.  There's a line from a play: "Time will teach [her] very quickly the things [she] needs to know".  I hope that's the case!

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